Written By Desiree Maes
Every morning I wake up to quite an ambitious to do list. That’s because every night I think about all of the things I did, and then I push what I didn’t accomplishment to tomorrows “to-do’s.” Do you know I have been rotating updating my son’s memory book from today’s to-do list to tomorrow’s for about two years now? Every time I think about it, my dramatic little friend named “guilt” pays me a visit.
(Cue the violins.)
What if I die before I complete his book? I’ve thought. Poor little guy won’t even know what his favorite color was when he was 3-1/2 years old.
Oh the humanity!
[Photo by Jenn and Tony Bot on Flickr
Here’s the thing though: Every single woman I speak to, without exception, seems to struggle with the same issue: finding balance in life. Single, married, 10 kids, no kids, young, old, career moms, stay-at-home moms, I have never met one women who told me she has a perfectly balanced life.
It got me thinking. Maybe just maybe, that’s how God designed us.
Yes, perhaps our wonderful Father wants us to always rely on Him. Every. Single. Day. If you read how Jesus teaches us to pray in Matthew 6: 11, He says “Give us this day, our daily bread.” In the footnotes of my ESV Study Bible it reads, “The fourth petition focuses on the disciples’ daily bread, which includes all of their daily needs.”
Notice Jesus didn’t say “Give us this weekly, monthly, or yearly bread.” He asked His Father to provide for what was needed that day.
If to you continue reading in verse 34, He says this:
Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”
So all of this planning we do is good—just so long as we are flexible. Flexible to what? Flexible to adjust our plans accordingly to God’s will.
I know it’s hard, especially for us control freaks. But here are 5 ways we Christian women can find balance:
- Pray. This may sound like a no brainer, but so often I will be go through a day where nothing seems to go right and I have to stop and ask myself, “Did I pray today?” We should think of prayer like fuel. When we pray it’s as if we’re putting gas into our car. Starting to feel depleted in your energy? Well it’s time to fuel up again! You might have to put gas in your tank multiple times per day!
- Get into the Word. God gave us a manual for every day. Use it. Psalm 119:105 says this, “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” We don’t turn on the light in a dark room after we’ve stumbled around for a little while. Instead, we turn the light on when we first walk into the room. Likewise, it’s beneficial to getting into God’s Word, the Bible, at the start of our day.
- Listen and submit to God. When we are seeking God’s guidance through prayer and reading the Bible, we need to, in the words of Vanilla Ice, “Stop, collaborate, and listen.” Seriously! It’s one thing to seek God for counsel, but we also must be obedient when He answers us.
- Be content and stop comparing. It’s so easy in this age of social media to “compare and despair.” Listen girlfriend: God’s plans for your life are unique! Look around. I bet you can find many things to be grateful for. When we start to count our blessings and to be thankful for whatever season we are in, contentment flows naturally. When we start looking at everyone else’s lives and what they have that we don’t, we began to covet. And that’s sinful, friend, and leads to despair.
- Let go of guilt. We can’t please everyone. It’s just a fact of life. Sometimes we have to say, “No I can’t make it to such-and-such event.” Trust me, this is a hard one for me because I am a people pleaser by nature. But God tells us not to look for man’s approval but God’s. In this world where we are being pulled in every direction, we must look to the Lord for guidance. We must be good stewards of the life we have including our spouse, children, friends, home, church, neighbors, etc. Ask the Lord to give you strength to prioritize what is most honoring to Him. It’s also good to take inventory of the things that may be pulling you away from living a God-centered life. There are so many other things that want to pull our attention away from what’s truly important. So take time to de-clutter your schedule, even if that means getting off social media for a while, turning off the TV, smart phones, and/or not attending every single event you’re invited to.
I think following these 5 steps will help us stay balanced, and the most important take away is that we rely 100% on God to achieve this. I can’t say that we will ever feel like we have a completely balanced life until we are in His perfect presence, but with the help of the Holy Spirit we can find balance for the day.